痞客邦的布魯斯

美國歌手 Charlene 在1982年唱紅了一首名曲，I've Never Been to Me。這首歌訴說著一個超級熟女在歷經世事之後的有感而發，規勸女人回歸家庭，珍惜現在的所有。

就先來看這個熟女做過什麼吧？

她是個不滿的妻子，跋扈的太太，去過喬治亞跟加州，然後跟牧師做愛，又去了法國尼斯跟希臘的小島，在遊艇上啜飲香檳，去蒙地卡羅當大明星，花枝招展，還搞上國王，看了許多女人不該看的事情（到底是什麼事啊？）。

經過這些大風大浪之後，熟女的結論竟然是「從未找到真正的自己」儘管她連天堂都去過了？

看來諷刺，卻也是人生真實面的徹底驗證啊！

人常常會去羨慕自己無法得到的東西及生活形態，也總是以為那樣會比較好，於是「有錢比較好，有錢比較快樂，帥哥人人愛，美女人人追，我也要這樣，我也要那樣」的想法就成了主流的思想中心。

但是事實往往也無法如我們所願，所謂「有一好沒兩好」就是這樣子，有了這個，可能那個就沒了。真實生活中老是出現這種無法兼得必定有所一方失去的道理，看看那些據說是人人稱羨的明星吧，大都是帥哥美女，賺進大把鈔票，總是以優雅尊貴的姿態出現在公共場合，看似一切都相當的完美。但是負面消息也同樣會出現在這些人身上，精神壓力大，得憂鬱症，結婚後老公出軌，孩子不孝，或者直接被老公毆打，家務事一樣一樣地被媒體抽絲剝繭攤在陽光下供大眾觀賞，顏面盡失。

最明顯的例子莫過於Whitney Houston跟Mariah Carey 這兩個女星吧，她們擁有了全世界的人最羨慕的所有優點--歌聲、臉蛋、身材、名利、財富。別人稱羨的東西她們通通有，而且還擁有很多。但是呢，她們照樣可以把自己的生活搞得烏煙瘴氣，亂七八糟到了極點。一個跑去吸毒，另一個精神崩潰得進精神病院接受治療。她們幾乎擁有了全世界，但也幾乎失去了一切。

我倒是羨慕Charlene口中的這個超級熟女的作風，畢竟是自己親身經歷過的歷程，所有甘苦點滴只有她自己最清楚。她雖然規勸這些女人回歸家庭，但畢竟她自己不虛此生，沒有白白走一遭。或許有些人會覺得要女人回歸家庭不就是等於走回頭路，讓女人一輩子埋首於家務當中嗎？其實仔細想想，在以前那個保守的年代，女人除了結婚生小孩努力讓自己成為一個黃臉婆之外，並沒有其他任何選擇；而今天如果這個女人在周遊列國、看盡人間世事之後選擇回歸家庭，那何嘗不可呢？女性主義的思想也是極力擴大女性在各層面選擇的可能性，而不是消滅舊有的選項。同樣地對一個不選擇以回歸家庭作為人生志向的人（包括女人跟男人）來說，他們的生活依舊是需要被祝福、被肯定、被推崇的。你沒去過天堂，也不能阻擋別人前進天堂的道路啊！



I've Never Been To Me
Charlene

Hey lady, you lady, cursing at your life
You're a discontented mother and a regimented wife
I've no doubt you dream about the things you'll never do
But, I wish someone had talked to me like I wanna talk to you

Whoooa, I've been to Georgia and California and anywhere I could run
Took the hand of a preacher man and we made love in the sun
But I ran out of places and friendly faces because I had to be free
I've been to paradise, but I've never been to me

Please lady, please, lady don't just walk away
'Cause I have this need to tell you why I'm all alone today
I can see so much of me, still living in your eyes
Won't you share a part of a weary heart that has lived million lies

Whoooa, I've been to Nice and the Isle of Greece
While I've sipped champagne on a yacht
I've moved like Harlow in Monte Carlo and showed 'em what I've got

I've been undressed by kings and I've seen some things
That a woman ain't supposed to see
I've been to paradise but I've never been to me

Hey, you know what paradise is
It's a lie, a fantasy we create about people and places as we'd like them to be

But you know what truth is
It's that little baby you're holding, and it's that man you fought with this morning
The same one you're going to make love with tonight
That's truth, that's love

Sometimes I've been to crying for unborn children that might have made me complete
But I, I took the sweet life I never knew I'd be bitter from the sweet
I've spent my life exploring the subtle whoring that costs too much to be free
Hey lady, I've been to paradise but I've never been to meeeeeee

I've been to paradise
(Never been to me)..